The Body Language of Crossing Your Arms - Mentalist Ehud Segev (The Mentalizer) NYC
Monday , 19 November 2018
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The Body Language of Crossing Your Arms

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Body language continues to be an intriguing topic and for a good reason. Body language can say a lot about what a person is expressing as opposed to what he or she is saying.

Frustrated Mother and DaughterBeing conscious and knowing how to properly express the correct body language can improve your relationships with the people around you. However, there is one particular body language that has garnered different opinions and that is when a person is crossing his or her arms. Before, people crossing their arms gave the impression that they were stand-off individuals or people who are protecting themselves on a subconscious level.  Studies, however, show that it is not necessarily the case. Here are some facts about crossing your arms:

Fact 1: People crossing their arms may be simply feeling more comfortable doing it. It may be because they can relax better that way especially if their arms do not have an armrest where they can rest it on. It could also be that they are feeling cold due to low temperature. In addition, there are a number of people sitting with their arms folded regardless if they are interacting with someone or not. At the same time, people tend to subconsciously mimic one another and this refers to “Postural Echo” and if a person is seen with his or her arms folded by another then there is a tendency for that person to do the same thing. On the other hand, if a person is confronted with an awkward question or is put in an uncomfortable position and he or she folds his or her arms, then chances are they are being defensive.

Fact II: The meaning of body language, including crossing your arms is overly stated by a lot of experts. The idea was initially alien to a lot of individuals. Some book authors, who wrote about body language, tend to influence the people to buy their books by overly stating the body language myths, when in fact it is not always the case. Not everyone is aware or familiar with each body language and its impact. Some would claim that certain body languages like crossing your arms have a certain impression on other people when in fact, the root of the behavior is as simple as being uncomfortable.

Fact IIIThe fact of the matter is that not all communication revolves around non-verbal cues such as crossing your arms, or smiling at people or fidgeting. Verbal communication still remains to be a big factor when it comes to interpersonal relationships. These days, you would find surveys about verbal and non-verbal communication online saying that a certain percentage of communication is this and that but then again, you would not see the actual source, or who actually did it or any other relevant data. If the case was true, that non-verbal communication played a big role in most interpersonal relationships, then it would be quite useless to learn other languages when you can depend on their non-verbal cues. There would be no need for verbal communication and that would only serve as props.

These are some facts about body language that should be considered before you judge someone who crosses his or her arms as being defensive or unsociable.

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