You probably are already familiar with Jim Rohn’s truism, “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. Jim Rohn the self-help guru and popular motivational speaker, might not be bulls-eye right, but his saying definitely packs a lot of truth. In this post, we’re going to dive deeper into how the people you spend the most time with (could be your friends, workplace colleagues, or even family members) affect your chance at success.
Who are you spending time with?
It doesn’t matter how talented you are, who your parents, are, where you were born, or even how smart you are! The people you spend time with have an impact on who you eventually turn out to be as a person. Who you spend most time with can pull you up just as much as it can bring you totally down. Scholars agree that the environment we live in does affect who we are, as well as our characteristics and behaviour!
Follow the following simple steps to troubleshoot your own circle:
- List down the 5 people you tend to spend most of your time with. These might be your spouse, your close friends, or your workplace colleague. Don’t worry if they’re less than five, just write their names down.
- Now that you have your list of the people you spend much time with, ask the following questions: who are they? What are they doing with their lives? Are they optimistic, happy, ambitious, enthusiastic, or sad?
- Carefully evaluate who these people are. Do they press you forward when you present new ideas? Are they always discouraging you? Are they helping you accomplish your own goals, or totally putting you off?
- At this level, you’re able to see clearly, and decide who you really want to continue spending your time with. Don’t be hesitant if only one person in your list makes it! It’s okay to lose some friends, if it’s for the better.
Successful people surround themselves with driven people
Successful folks tend to spend time with other like-minded, driven people. If you’re serious about levelling the playing field and being able to move forward without anyone pulling you behind, you’re going to have to find good people you can spend time with. ‘Good’ people can be anyone. They can be some of your friends, a few of your family members, that one co-worker, or even an acquaintance that you met recently. Good people are the happy, positive folks who can enrich your life. They are the people who are that person who incessantly encourages you to hit the gym so you can meet your weight loss goals, or that all-time fan who keeps encouraging you to go for the next milestone! They are people who do inspire you to be a better version of yourself.
Keep in mind that ‘good’ doesn’t mean similar. You want to bring a little diversity into play here, so you can grow in all areas. When you’re surrounded by the right people, you’re surrounded by life. You’ll find joy in everyday things, and you’ll be less stressed. You can really commit to start spending your time with people who have a positive impact on your life!